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January 29, 2013

It is incredible to me that this culture does not have a good complete word to talk about our most intimate female parts.

As a culture we most often use the term vagina to refer to our lady parts. However, technically the vagina is just the internal structure, the muscular canal between the vulva and the uterus, ending at the cervix. It famously means “sheath” in latin. The problem with this term is the complete omission of the entire structure of the vulva. This means we are verbally omitting our clitoris when we speak of our genitals, making invisible where most women experience orgasmic pleasure completely.

Technically the vulva is exclusively the external genitalia,  primarily the two sets of labia and the structure of the clitoris. The labia’s also have ill-fitting names. There are two sets, the labia majora and the labia minora.  The labia majora translates as the “larger or outer lips” and the labia minora refers to the “smaller or inner lips”. There are such a huge range of vulva shapes and sizes, with many women having inner lips being larger than the outer lips and these names can set women up to feel like they have incorrect or wrong genitalia. It is not the labia that are incorrect or deviant but the words we use to describe them inadequate and incomplete.

As precious as the female body is you would think we could come up with one word to inclusively name and honor the whole genital area, as if it all matters, because it does.

We need a new term, a new word to describe the totality of the female genitals in all its pleasure-making, beautiful, diverse glory.

Any suggestions?

January 15, 2013

Loving our bodies just the way they are is a foundational piece of living in a body healthfully, happily and with the ability to access the most possible pleasure.

There is evidence that looking good has little impact on your sex life.

Feeling good, however, has an enormous impact on your sex life.

Thus, acceptance of what our body is like right now is essential to our ultimate happiness and sensual fulfillment, regardless of what our body actually looks like.

What would you have to give up in order to actually feel happy with your body just as it is, right now?

Knowing, of course, that the body is entirely malleable and can be created differently from how it is now if you wish, but that is for another day…